This man is always aggressive and abusive but turns sweet when he wants ‘something’ behind closed doors. He withholds attention, won’t reply to text messages until his ’thing’ reminds him of you. Never Ever Marry Him. He is a user.
He has cheated on you. Or when you got together, he was cheating on someone else. Then you got to know and he cries an ocean, blames it on the devil and then you forgive. He cheats again and again then you find out, this time he threatens to commit suicide because he can’t take the shame of falling for the devil again. You beg him not to kill himself, you promise not to leave him and he offers you a ring. Don’t take that ring. He is a Smooth Cheat.
3.Irresponsible Baby Daddy:
If he already has kids, and he has not raised them well, why would you (possibly) want to make more with him? Are you that careless that you want to bring innocent children into the world to suffer the emotional disaster caused by an irresponsible father. His attitude to his children should be a reason to say “NO, TRY THE NEXT DOOR”.
Men who have addictions to alcohol or drugs have learned to hide their problems—but you don’t want to wait until your honeymoon to find out that he’s a boozer. Never marry a man who refuses to get help for his addiction. Insist that he get professional help or walk away. A South African based preacher once said that “Today’s Addict will become Tomorrow’s Convict If Not Changed.” ~Charles Awuzie. You don’t need a convict for a husband or do you? And don’t get into a co-dependent relationship in which he claims he needs you to stay sober. You can’t fix him.
5. The Narcissist.
It’s so sweet to marry a cutie But be careful: If your boyfriend spends six hours a day at the gym and regularly posts close-ups of his biceps on the social media then you are in for troubles. Do not fall for a self-absorbed guy. He might be cute, but a man who is concerned about his appearance and his own needs will never be able to love you sacrificially. You don’t need a handsome man who will be busy making other women happy. You need a good man who loves you in a ‘handsome’ way. If he is posting his ‘6 packs’ on social sites than he is posting pictures of you, then you’re in for a fight. Stay if you got strength to fight, RUN if your strength is for something better.
6.The Abuser. Men with abusive tendencies can’t control their anger when it boils over. If you are dating a guy who has a tendency to fly off the handle, either at you or others, don’t be tempted to rationalize his behavior. He has a big problem, and if you marry him you will have to navigate his minefield every day to avoid triggering another outburst. Angry men hurt women—verbally and sometimes physically. Find a man who is gentle and thoughtful.
7.The Man-child. First of all, this is Africa Thisday and we are 100% African. In Africa, you can only be called a man when you’re independent of your immediate family. I’m suspicious of a guy who still lives with his parents at age 35. If his mother is still doing his cooking, cleaning and ironing at that age, you can be sure he’s stuck in an emotional time warp. You are asking for trouble if you think you can be a wife to a guy who hasn’t grown up. Back away and, as a friend, encourage him to find a mentor who can help him mature. Or do you want to commit child abuse? Let him grow up or let him go.